The phrase holds affection and pain together: separation hurts precisely because the relationship being left is valued.
Romeo and Juliet, Act 2, Scene 2; Juliet speaks as the lovers part for the night.
Juliet says this to Romeo in Romeo and Juliet, Act 2, Scene 2, as they prolong their farewell.
“And ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”
Separation can expose the depth of attachment that ordinary familiarity concealed, making loss a painful measure of how much the bond mattered.
The Prophet, “On Love.”
“For grief indeed is love and grief beside.”
The sonnet treats grief as attachment plus the pain attached to what has been lost, refusing to separate sorrow cleanly from love.
Sonnets from the Portuguese, Sonnet XXXV, Project Gutenberg #2002. “For grief indeed is love and grief beside” occurs as the lyric speaker asks whether a new beloved can fill a place still occupied by family memory and bereavement. It remains intimate Victorian love poetry, not a clinical model or universal definition of grief.
“To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also.”
Paul makes forgiveness reciprocal and communal, showing that restoration can require people to align their response rather than preserve separate grievances.
2 Corinthians 2:10, King James Version; Paul continues instructions about forgiving and receiving a person who had caused sorrow.
“’Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all.”
Love can remain worth having even when it ends in loss, because avoiding grief by avoiding attachment would also remove the relationship itself.
In Memoriam A.H.H., Canto XXVII, closing stanza; represented by the Wikisource canto transcription and independently visible on printed page 44 / scan leaf 64 of a public-domain edition. Tennyson's 'loved and lost' conclusion belongs to the elegy's grief for Arthur Hallam and its argument that love remains valuable despite bereavement; it is poetry, not a clinical grief prescription.
“You have buried one whom you loved; look about for someone to love.”
Continuing to love does not erase the person who died; it refuses to let bereavement close the capacity for relationship permanently.
Letter 63 urges remembrance of a lost friend while continuing to participate in friendship and life.
“Forgive, I pray thee now, the trespass of thy brethren, and their sin;”
The request comes after their father’s death, when Joseph’s brothers fear retaliation and appeal directly for forgiveness of the wrong they committed against him.
Genesis 50:17, King James Version; Joseph’s brothers send a message asking pardon for their earlier wrongdoing against him.
