Browse 6 quotations connecting Oscar Wilde with Identity, with meanings, source notes and related themes.
Each quotation is included because its central idea connects with this theme, not simply because one matching word appears in the sentence.
Sources represented here include An Ideal Husband, The Soul of Man under Socialism, The Picture of Dorian Gray — 1891 edition. Keeping the work and source note beside each quotation makes differences in setting, speaker and emphasis easier to see.
Sources represented here include An Ideal Husband, The Soul of Man under Socialism, The Picture of Dorian Gray — 1891 edition.
“The only possible society is oneself.”
The comic exaggeration makes self-company part of Wilde’s joke about society while still centering comfort with oneself.
Source note: An Ideal Husband, Act III, spoken by Lord Goring immediately before the lifelong-romance line.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”
The line playfully treats self-acceptance not as a one-time achievement but as a relationship that lasts throughout life.
Source note: An Ideal Husband, Act 3; Lord Goring delivers the lifelong-romance epigram in Wilde’s social comedy, where self-regard is framed through deliberate wit.
“To be natural is such a very difficult pose to keep up.”
The paradox mocks social performance: even “being natural” can become a carefully maintained pose when people are conscious of appearances.
Source note: An Ideal Husband; Lord Goring turns naturalness itself into a social pose.
“To define is to limit.”
Definitions clarify ideas but can also narrow them, especially when a label is treated as the complete reality of a person or experience.
Source note: The Picture of Dorian Gray, 1891 edition, Chapter 17; Lord Henry answers the Duchess of Monmouth’s question “What are you?” with “To define is to limit.”
“It is not selfish to think for oneself.”
Independent thought is distinguished from selfishness: forming one’s own judgment can protect individuality without requiring indifference to other people.
Source note: The Soul of Man under Socialism; Wilde defends individual thought while criticizing social pressure that mistakes conformity for moral virtue.
“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”
Wilde separates deliberate individual living from merely passing through existence, making self-realization and chosen purpose part of what it means to live fully.
Source note: The Soul of Man under Socialism; Wilde develops individualism as the freedom to form a life from within rather than conform to social expectation.