“The best revenge is not to be like your enemy.”
Retaliation is rejected when it would reproduce the very behavior one condemns.
Source details
Meditations 6.6; wording varies by translation.
Browse 6 quotations connecting Marcus Aurelius with Forgiveness, with meanings, source notes and related themes.
Sources represented here include Thoughts of Marcus Aurelius Antoninus, Meditations.
“The best revenge is not to be like your enemy.”
Retaliation is rejected when it would reproduce the very behavior one condemns.
Meditations 6.6; wording varies by translation.
“It is peculiar to man to love even those who do wrong.”
Marcus treats humane regard as compatible with recognizing wrongdoing, because error does not erase shared human kinship.
Meditations, Book VII, section 22, George Long translation.
“Mildness and gentleness are more manly than anger and discontent.”
Strength is located in self-command and humane restraint rather than aggression, making gentleness compatible with courage.
Meditations, Book XI; George Long translation, in a reflection on responding to wrongdoing without anger.
“The best way of avenging thyself is not to become like the wrong-doer.”
Retaliation can reproduce the conduct we condemn; the stronger response is to preserve one’s own standards.
Meditations, Book VI, in George Long’s translation.
“Men exist for the sake of one another. Teach them then or bear with them.”
Human interdependence creates two practical choices when others fall short: help them learn when possible, or practice patient endurance when change is unavailable.
Meditations, Book VIII; George Long translation in Thoughts of Marcus Aurelius Antoninus.
“Take away thy opinion, and then there is taken away the complaint, “I have been harmed.””
The statement asks whether part of suffering is sustained by the story attached to an event rather than by the event alone.
Meditations, Book IV, in George Long’s translation.