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“The best revenge is not to be like your enemy.”
Retaliation is rejected when it would reproduce the very behavior one condemns.
Source note: Meditations 6.6; wording varies by translation.
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“Take away thy opinion, and then there is taken away the complaint, “I have been harmed.””
The statement asks whether part of suffering is sustained by the story attached to an event rather than by the event alone.
Source note: Meditations, Book IV, in George Long’s translation.
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“The greatest remedy for anger is delay.”
Delay interrupts the first impulse of anger and gives judgment time to test whether the perceived offence deserves the reaction it initially provoked.
Source note: On Anger, Book II, section 29.
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“Say nothing more to thyself than what the first appearances report.”
The instruction separates observation from added interpretation, helping prevent an initial event from becoming a larger story of injury or fear.
Source note: Meditations, Book VIII, section 49, George Long translation.
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“What I advise you to do is, not to be unhappy before the crisis comes.”
Anticipatory fear can make a person suffer an event that has not occurred, so Seneca asks the reader not to spend present peace on an uncertain future.
Source note: Moral Letters to Lucilius, Letter 13, section 4, Richard M. Gummere translation.
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“No man can have a peaceful life who thinks too much about lengthening it.”
An obsession with extending life can undermine the peace of the life already present, because fear of ending displaces attention from living.
Source note: Moral Letters to Lucilius, Letter 4.