Meaning of “Do! Why, if you love him, you must…”

Howards End, Chapter XXII, Project Gutenberg #2946. The narrator summarizes Margaret’s hope of reconciling “the prose and the passion” in Henry with “Only connect! That was the whole of her sermon.” The sentence belongs to the novel’s thematic and character context rather than serving as a complete formula for every relationship.

Indian Summer of a Forsyte, represented in Project Gutenberg #2594. Irene says the line to old Jolyon while speaking about her dead lover; it is emotionally charged fictional dialogue, and the surrounding conversation immediately gives old Jolyon a more ironic response.

A Week on the Concord and Merrimack Rivers, Wednesday; the friendship meditation contrasts true mutual understanding with the limits of conventional conversation.

Emma, Volume III, Chapter XIII, scan-backed 1816 John Murray first edition on Wikisource. George Knightley tells Emma “If I loved you less, I might be able to talk about it more” during his declaration, explicitly contrasting the depth of his feeling with his difficulty making polished speeches.

Hypatia — or New Foes with an Old Face, Chapter XXIV, “Lost Lambs,” Project Gutenberg #6308. Pelagia tells Philammon that men love women for their own sakes while women love “for love’s sake” during a distressed reflection on betrayal, dependence and the absent Amal. It is fictional dialogue in Kingsley’s historical novel, not a universal claim about men and women.

Emma, Volume III, Chapter XIII, scan-backed 1816 John Murray first edition on Wikisource. The narrator observes that complete truth seldom belongs to any human disclosure while explaining that even the Emma–Knightley understanding contains mistaken conduct alongside genuine feeling.