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“The only way to have a friend is to be one.”
Friendship is treated as reciprocal practice rather than something one can demand without embodying it.
Source note: Essay “Friendship.”
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“Allay the anger of your friend by kindness.”
Kindness can lower the temperature of conflict more effectively than matching a friend’s anger with additional anger.
Source note: The Moral Sayings of Publius Syrus, maxim 3, in Darius Lyman’s 1856 English rendering; maxim order can vary across editions.
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“every unostentatious word or smile that shows a heart awake to others”
Voice: Narrator voice · Narrator
The phrase values small, unshowy signs of attention because they reveal active awareness of other people rather than performative benevolence.
Source note: Daniel Deronda; narrator-level phrase in a passage about unnoticed social influence and responsiveness to others.
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“Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do.”
Encouragement is described as mutual work: people strengthen a community by helping one another recover perspective and continue.
Source note: 1 Thessalonians 5:11 in the King James Version, calling readers to comfort and build one another up.
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“My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.”
Love is measured by conduct rather than verbal display, making practical help and truthful action more important than affectionate claims alone.
Source note: 1 John 3:18 in the King James Version, following a contrast between having resources and closing oneself to another person’s need.
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“To err is human; to forgive, divine.”
Error is treated as ordinary human limitation, while forgiveness requires an additional act of generosity.
Source note: An Essay on Criticism, Part II; Pope warns that shallow learning can produce premature confidence before deeper study tempers judgment.