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“If a man hold himself dear, let him watch himself carefully; during one at least out of the three watches a wise man should be watchful.”
Holding oneself dear is expressed as careful stewardship rather than indulgence: valuing the self creates a reason to remain attentive to one’s conduct and direction.
Source note: Dhammapada 157, Chapter XII “Self,” in Max Müller’s translation; the verse explicitly joins self-regard with watchfulness and ethical discipline.
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“Let each man direct himself first to what is proper, then let him teach others; thus a wise man will not suffer.”
Advice to others gains credibility when personal conduct comes first; the verse makes self-direction a prerequisite for instruction rather than an excuse to control other people.
Source note: Dhammapada 158, Chapter XII “Self,” Max Müller translation; the sequence emphasizes governing one’s own conduct before attempting to guide others.
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“Bad deeds, and deeds hurtful to ourselves, are easy to do; what is beneficial and good, that is very difficult to do.”
What benefits a person can require more effort than what harms them, so genuine self-care is presented as disciplined choice rather than whatever feels easiest in the moment.
Source note: Dhammapada 163 in Max Müller’s translation; the verse contrasts actions harmful to oneself with the harder work of choosing what is beneficial and good.
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“Self-help is the best help.”
Asking for help does not replace the responsibility to make the effort that is already within one’s own power.
Source note: Moral printed after “Hercules and the Wagoner” in the Townsend translation; Hercules first tells the driver to help himself.
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“Activity does not consist in velocity of change but in constancy of purpose.”
Being busy or changing quickly is not the same as purposeful action; continuity of aim gives activity its direction.
Source note: The Life of Reason; the line appears in Santayana’s analysis of ideas, activity, and sustained direction.
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“What the superior man seeks, is in himself. What the mean man seeks, is in others.”
Mature judgment begins with one’s own conduct and capacities rather than making other people the first explanation for every outcome.
Source note: The Analects of Confucius, James Legge’s public-domain English translation; Book XV contrasts inward self-examination with dependence on others.