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“Three may keep a secret, if two of them are dead.”
The joke exaggerates how difficult secrecy becomes once information is shared, making discretion the safest form of confidentiality.
Source note: Poor Richard’s Almanack; one of Franklin’s compact maxims about secrecy and human behavior.
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“Regard him as loyal, and you will make him loyal.”
Seneca suggests that suspicion can become self-reinforcing: treating a chosen friend as trustworthy helps create the conditions for candid, reciprocal friendship rather than teaching defensiveness from the outset.
Source note: Moral Letters to Lucilius, Letter 3, Richard M. Gummere translation. Seneca immediately contrasts this with people who fear deception so strongly that their suspicions help teach others to deceive them.
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“A liar will not be believed, even when he speaks the truth.”
Voice: Fictional character · Wise man of the village
Repeated deception damages credibility beyond the original lie: once listeners have learned to expect false alarms, even a later truthful warning can fail to restore belief in time.
Source note: Joseph Jacobs, The Fables of Aesop, “The Shepherd Boy and the Wolf,” Project Gutenberg #28. The wise man of the village gives the moral after the boy’s repeated false cries cause the villagers to ignore his real warning.
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“Seldom, very seldom, does complete truth belong to any human disclosure.”
Voice: Narrator voice · Narrator
Austen observes that even sincere accounts can contain omission, disguise, or misunderstanding, which makes careful listening and humility important in judging what people say.
Source note: Emma, Volume III, Chapter 13, during the narrator’s reflection on Emma and Mr. Knightley’s conversation.
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“When friendship is settled, you must trust; before friendship is formed, you must pass judgment.”
Seneca separates two stages that are often confused: evaluate carefully before admitting someone into close friendship, then stop treating an accepted friend as though the relationship were still permanently on trial.
Source note: Moral Letters to Lucilius, Letter 3, “On True and False Friendship,” Richard M. Gummere translation. The letter argues against both careless openness and suspicious friendship; Letter 3 provenance still normalizes to the single Moral Letters work family for Seneca authority.
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“A soft answer turneth away wrath.”
The proverb recommends a restrained response because tone can either lower or intensify conflict.
Source note: Proverbs 15:1 in the King James Version; the proverb contrasts a soft answer with speech that intensifies wrath.