“When one is in love one begins by deceiving oneself. And one ends by deceiving others.”
- Source
- A Woman of No Importance
- Date
- 1893
- Attribution
- Source identified
- Voice / speaker
- Fictional character · Lord Illingworth
What does this quote mean?
The line turns romance into a two-stage comedy of self-deception and social deception, exaggerating cynicism to expose how desire distorts judgment.
Where does it come from?
A Woman of No Importance, Act III; Lord Illingworth answers Gerald’s question about love with the romance/self-deception epigram. The exact catalog wording is supported by this play, not by The Picture of Dorian Gray.
Who voices the line?
Fictional character · Lord Illingworth. A Woman of No Importance, Act III; Lord Illingworth answers Gerald’s question about love with the romance/self-deception epigram. The line is not Lord Henry dialogue from The Picture of Dorian Gray.
The source author and the local speaker can be different, especially in fiction, drama, dialogue and poetry.
How should this attribution be read?
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