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“My friend, I am not what I seem.”
The outward persona is not treated as the whole self, reminding readers that appearances and social roles can conceal a much larger private inner life.
Source note: The Madman, “My Friend”; the speaker contrasts the visible self with the quieter self that remains inaccessible.
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“To define is to limit.”
Voice: Fictional character · Lord Henry Wotton
Definitions clarify ideas but can also narrow them, especially when a label is treated as the complete reality of a person or experience.
Source note: The Picture of Dorian Gray, 1891 edition, Chapter 17; Lord Henry answers the Duchess of Monmouth’s question “What are you?” with “To define is to limit.”
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“Public opinion—private laziness.”
The epigram provocatively suggests that adopting public opinion can sometimes substitute borrowed judgment for the harder work of forming one’s own view.
Source note: Human, All-Too-Human, Part I, aphorism 482, “Repeated Once More”; Helen Zimmern translation.
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“Above all, don’t lie to yourself.”
Voice: Fictional character · Father Zossima
Self-deception is presented as especially damaging because it corrupts the person’s ability to recognize truth both inwardly and around them.
Source note: The Brothers Karamazov, Book II, Father Zossima’s counsel; Constance Garnett translation.
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“What am I? A part of the infinite.”
Tolstoy frames the self as finite yet participating in something larger, shifting the question of meaning away from isolated individual duration toward a relation with the infinite.
Source note: My Confession, Leo Wiener translation; the question appears in Tolstoy’s investigation of how finite human life might be related to an infinite reality.
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“Diversity repels; likeness attracts.”
The concise axiom is one premise in Boethius’s metaphysical argument: things are described as tending toward what is like them, not as a modern empirical rule about human attraction or relationships.
Source note: How Substances Can Be Good in Virtue of Their Existence Without Being Absolute Goods (De Hebdomadibus), preliminary proposition IX, H. F. Stewart / E. K. Rand 1918 edition, Project Gutenberg #13316. Kept as a historical metaphysical premise, not social-science evidence.