Browse 13 quotations connecting Epictetus with Self-Control, with meanings, source notes and related themes.
Each quotation is included because its central idea connects with this theme, not simply because one matching word appears in the sentence.
Sources represented here include Enchiridion, The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, Discourses of Epictetus. Keeping the work and source note beside each quotation makes differences in setting, speaker and emphasis easier to see.
Sources represented here include Enchiridion, The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, Discourses of Epictetus.
“If you would make anything a habit, do it.”
Habit formation is reduced to repeated action: the behavior itself is what trains the pattern.
Source note: Discourses; Epictetus gives the instruction while explaining how repeated acts strengthen habits.
“Generally then if you would make anything a habit, do it.”
Repeated behavior trains the corresponding habit, so change depends on practicing the desired action rather than merely endorsing it in theory.
Source note: Discourses, George Long translation; Epictetus explains that faculties and habits are strengthened by corresponding actions.
“We shall both be cautious and confident, and indeed confident because of our caution.”
Epictetus rejects confidence as recklessness: confidence becomes rational when caution is directed toward one’s own judgments and choices rather than toward externals that cannot be controlled.
Source note: Discourses, Book II, Chapter I, “That confidence (courage) is not inconsistent with caution,” George Long translation, Project Gutenberg #10661. The surrounding argument distinguishes confidence about externals from moral caution about how one uses one’s own will.
“Wish the things which happen to be as they are.”
The advice is not passivity; it is a call to stop fighting reality before deciding how to respond to it.
Source note: A concise clause from Enchiridion 8, where Epictetus contrasts demanding preferred outcomes with accepting what occurs.
“Remember that you must behave in life as at a dinner party.”
The dinner-party image recommends waiting for what comes in proper order instead of grabbing anxiously, turning restraint into a model for daily conduct.
Source note: Enchiridion, chapter 15; the following sentences explain waiting until things come round to you.
“Men are disturbed not by the things which happen, but by the opinions about the things.”
Epictetus separates an event from the judgment placed on it, making interpretation a practical point of leverage.
Source note: Enchiridion 5 in George Long’s translation; the passage distinguishes events from the opinions that disturb us.
“The man did not know the rest of my faults, for he would not have mentioned these only.”
Epictetus answers insult without retaliation by turning attention toward his own fallibility; the joke reduces the critic’s power because reputation is treated as an external judgment rather than something that must be avenged.
Source note: Enchiridion, section 33 in George Long’s public-domain translation, Project Gutenberg #10661. The line is the suggested reply after hearing that someone has spoken ill of you; it is Stoic self-command, not an instruction to accept abuse without boundaries.
“When you have decided that a thing ought to be done, and are doing it, never avoid being seen doing it.”
Once judgment has concluded an action is right, misplaced criticism should not become a reason to hide or abandon the action.
Source note: Enchiridion, chapter 35, George Long translation; the following sentence distinguishes right action from fear of wrong criticism.
“Demand not that events should happen as you wish; but wish them to happen as they do happen, and you will go on well.”
Peace is sought by aligning desire with reality rather than requiring reality to obey preference, a central Stoic distinction between response and circumstance.
Source note: Enchiridion, section 8; Epictetus applies Stoic acceptance to events outside personal control.
“No man is free who is not master of himself.”
Self-command is presented as a prerequisite for freedom because uncontrolled impulses can rule a person as effectively as an outside master.
Source note: The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, saying XV, Hastings Crossley translation.
“Fortify thyself with contentment: that is an impregnable stronghold.”
Contentment creates a form of inward security because satisfaction becomes less dependent on circumstances that can be taken away.
Source note: The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, saying XVII, Hastings Crossley translation.
“True instruction is this:—to learn to wish that each thing should come to pass as it does.”
Stoic instruction begins by reducing the conflict between reality and demand, leaving judgment and action to work with what actually occurs.
Source note: The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, saying XXVI, Hastings Crossley translation.
“You must know that it is no easy thing for a principle to become a man’s own, unless each day he maintain it and hear it maintained, as well as work it out in life.”
Principles become character through repetition: they must be rehearsed, tested, and practiced until they survive ordinary pressure.
Source note: The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, saying XXX, Hastings Crossley translation.