Browse 17 quotations connecting Epictetus with Calm, with meanings, source notes and related themes.
Each quotation is included because its central idea connects with this theme, not simply because one matching word appears in the sentence.
Sources represented here include Enchiridion, The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, Discourses of Epictetus. Keeping the work and source note beside each quotation makes differences in setting, speaker and emphasis easier to see.
Sources represented here include Enchiridion, The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, Discourses of Epictetus.
“If you would make anything a habit, do it.”
Habit formation is reduced to repeated action: the behavior itself is what trains the pattern.
Source note: Discourses; Epictetus gives the instruction while explaining how repeated acts strengthen habits.
“Generally then if you would make anything a habit, do it.”
Repeated behavior trains the corresponding habit, so change depends on practicing the desired action rather than merely endorsing it in theory.
Source note: Discourses, George Long translation; Epictetus explains that faculties and habits are strengthened by corresponding actions.
“Remember that thou art an actor in a play.”
Life is pictured as a role with conditions we did not choose, while the quality of our performance remains our responsibility.
Source note: Enchiridion 17; the longer passage compares human life with playing the role assigned in a drama.
“Some things are in our control and others not.”
The opening distinction of the Enchiridion asks people to separate what depends on their own judgment and action from what does not.
Source note: Classical work; English wording varies by translation.
“Wish the things which happen to be as they are.”
The advice is not passivity; it is a call to stop fighting reality before deciding how to respond to it.
Source note: A concise clause from Enchiridion 8, where Epictetus contrasts demanding preferred outcomes with accepting what occurs.
“Disease is an impediment to the body, but not to the will.”
Physical limitation and inner choice are treated as different domains, preserving agency even under constraint.
Source note: Enchiridion 9; Epictetus uses illness to illustrate the distinction between external limits and the will.
“Remember that you must behave in life as at a dinner party.”
The dinner-party image recommends waiting for what comes in proper order instead of grabbing anxiously, turning restraint into a model for daily conduct.
Source note: Enchiridion, chapter 15; the following sentences explain waiting until things come round to you.
“Seek not that the things which happen should happen as you wish.”
Peace becomes more possible when desire stops demanding that reality conform perfectly to preference before a useful response can begin.
Source note: Enchiridion, section VIII, George Long translation; the following clause advises wishing events to be as they are.
“Men are disturbed not by the things which happen, but by the opinions about the things.”
Epictetus separates an event from the judgment placed on it, making interpretation a practical point of leverage.
Source note: Enchiridion 5 in George Long’s translation; the passage distinguishes events from the opinions that disturb us.
“The man did not know the rest of my faults, for he would not have mentioned these only.”
Epictetus answers insult without retaliation by turning attention toward his own fallibility; the joke reduces the critic’s power because reputation is treated as an external judgment rather than something that must be avenged.
Source note: Enchiridion, section 33 in George Long’s public-domain translation, Project Gutenberg #10661. The line is the suggested reply after hearing that someone has spoken ill of you; it is Stoic self-command, not an instruction to accept abuse without boundaries.
“Demand not that events should happen as you wish; but wish them to happen as they do happen, and you will go on well.”
Peace is sought by aligning desire with reality rather than requiring reality to obey preference, a central Stoic distinction between response and circumstance.
Source note: Enchiridion, section 8; Epictetus applies Stoic acceptance to events outside personal control.
“On the occasion of every accident that befalls you, remember to turn to yourself and inquire what power you have for turning it to use.”
Instead of beginning with what an event has taken away, the practice asks which capacity—endurance, restraint, patience, or judgment—can still be exercised.
Source note: Enchiridion, section X, George Long translation; Epictetus gives examples such as endurance under pain and patience under abuse.
“No man is free who is not master of himself.”
Self-command is presented as a prerequisite for freedom because uncontrolled impulses can rule a person as effectively as an outside master.
Source note: The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, saying XV, Hastings Crossley translation.
“Fortify thyself with contentment: that is an impregnable stronghold.”
Contentment creates a form of inward security because satisfaction becomes less dependent on circumstances that can be taken away.
Source note: The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, saying XVII, Hastings Crossley translation.
“True instruction is this:—to learn to wish that each thing should come to pass as it does.”
Stoic instruction begins by reducing the conflict between reality and demand, leaving judgment and action to work with what actually occurs.
Source note: The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, saying XXVI, Hastings Crossley translation.
“Have this thought ever present with thee, when thou losest any outward thing, what thou gainest in its stead.”
Loss is not automatically the whole story; the instruction asks what freedom, clarity, experience, or other value may accompany what has been given up.
Source note: The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, saying XXVII, Hastings Crossley translation.
“You must know that it is no easy thing for a principle to become a man’s own, unless each day he maintain it and hear it maintained, as well as work it out in life.”
Principles become character through repetition: they must be rehearsed, tested, and practiced until they survive ordinary pressure.
Source note: The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, saying XXX, Hastings Crossley translation.