Source-backed quotations about hearing before answering, receiving counsel and correction, attentive conversation, listening across disagreement, and the receptive side of learning and understanding. Listening is kept distinct from generic Communication, Silence, Understanding or obedience when no actual act of hearing, receiving or attending to another voice is central.
“Give every man thy ear, but few thy voice.”
Listening broadly while speaking selectively is presented as a practical discipline for judgment, relationships, and self-control.
Act 1, Scene 3; Polonius advises Laertes before his departure.
“Friendship helps the young to keep from error.”
Aristotle gives friendship a practical educational role: trusted companions can help younger people avoid mistakes by supplying counsel, example and shared judgment.
Nicomachean Ethics, Book VIII, Chapter I, Project Gutenberg #8438. The sentence occurs in Aristotle’s opening inventory of why friendship is necessary across different stages of life.
“There was no end either to her stories or her kindness.”
The narrator joins generosity and storytelling in one portrait, suggesting that attention, memory and hospitality can be experienced together as forms of kindness.
Deephaven, represented within Project Gutenberg #15985, Deephaven and Selected Stories & Sketches. The first-person visiting narrator is characterizing a local woman after extended conversation; it is fictional/regional narration rather than Jewett autobiography.
“You shall listen to all sides and filter them from yourself.”
Whitman urges the reader not to borrow even his own viewpoint wholesale: other voices can be heard, but judgment still has to be worked through personally rather than accepted second-hand.
Leaves of Grass (1855), untitled first-edition poem later known as “Song of Myself,” printed page 14 (Wikisource scan page 20). The sentence follows Whitman’s warning against taking things at second or third hand and against looking only through another person’s eyes; the reviewed locator is edition-specific.
“Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.”
Good judgment starts by hearing more quickly than speaking or reacting, especially when anger is close to the surface.
James 1:19 in the King James Version, pairing readiness to listen with restraint in speech and anger.
“Seldom, very seldom, does complete truth belong to any human disclosure.”
Austen observes that even sincere accounts can contain omission, disguise, or misunderstanding, which makes careful listening and humility important in judging what people say.
Emma, Volume III, Chapter XIII, scan-backed 1816 John Murray first edition on Wikisource. The narrator observes that complete truth seldom belongs to any human disclosure while explaining that even the Emma–Knightley understanding contains mistaken conduct alongside genuine feeling.
“Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.”
Good relationships can improve judgment and character through challenge, conversation, and mutual influence.
Proverbs 27:17 in the King James Version; the proverb uses sharpening as an image for the way one person can strengthen or refine another.
“Reading maketh a full man; conference a ready man; and writing an exact man.”
Bacon distinguishes what reading, conversation, and writing each contribute to intellectual development.
Of Studies; Bacon distinguishes the intellectual uses of reading, conversation, and writing within the essay’s compact account of study and judgment.
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”
Honest correction from a real friend may hurt more than flattery, but its purpose and reliability make it more valuable.
Proverbs 27:6, King James Version.
“He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.”
Answering before listening mistakes speed for competence; understanding requires enough restraint to hear the matter before judging it.
Proverbs 18:13 in the King James Version.
“Whoso loveth instruction loveth knowledge: but he that hateth reproof is brutish.”
Learning requires willingness to be corrected; rejecting every form of reproof blocks the feedback needed for growth.
Proverbs 12:1, King James Version.
“Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.”
Listening to correction and counsel is presented as an investment whose value becomes clearer over the course of a life.
Proverbs 19:20, King James Version.
“Fathers and mothers are too absorbed in business and housekeeping to study their children”
The narrator criticizes adults who become so occupied with work and household demands that they lose the attentive knowledge needed for trust with their children.
Eight Cousins; Or, The Aunt-Hill, Chapter 17, Project Gutenberg #38567. Narrator commentary follows Mac's complaint that parents and children have never learned to talk openly.
“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.”
Good leadership benefits from informed counsel instead of assuming one perspective is always sufficient.
Proverbs 11:14 in the King James Version.
“Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a man’s friend by hearty counsel.”
Good counsel from a trusted friend is compared with a pleasing fragrance because it can refresh the heart while also offering substance.
Proverbs 27:9 in the King James Version.
“A principal fruit of friendship is the ease and discharge of the fulness and swellings of the heart.”
Friendship gives difficult feelings somewhere safe to go; speaking with a trusted person can reduce the pressure of thoughts carried alone.
Of Friendship; Bacon names emotional disclosure as one of friendship’s principal benefits.
“Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established.”
Important plans improve when they are tested against more than one perspective, making counsel part of sound decision-making rather than a sign of weakness.
Proverbs 15:22 in the King James Version.
“Wise people, after they have listened to the laws, become serene, like a deep, smooth, and still lake.”
The still-lake image links serenity with disciplined understanding: calm is portrayed not as blankness but as a settled mind shaped by hearing and absorbing the teaching.
Dhammapada 82, F. Max Müller translation, Project Gutenberg #2017. The verse belongs to a Buddhist canonical collection and remains a textual source voice rather than a quotation by a modern individual author.
“How happy I am, that my friend Marcus Cornelius, so distinguished as an orator and so noble as a man, thinks me worth praising and blaming.”
Marcus values a relationship in which admiration does not exclude correction: Fronto’s willingness to praise and blame him is presented as a mark of trusted friendship rather than mere approval.
Project Gutenberg #2680, Appendix “Correspondence of M. Aurelius Antoninus and M. Cornelius Fronto,” identifies this line as Ad M. Caes. iii. 17. The wording is preserved as correspondence context, not treated as a maxim from the Meditations.
“There is no man that imparteth his joys to his friend, but he joyeth the more; and no man that imparteth his griefs to his friend, but he grieveth the less.”
Sharing experience changes its emotional weight: celebration can become fuller when another person receives it, while grief can become less isolating when it is spoken to someone trusted.
Essays, “Of Friendship,” Project Gutenberg #56463. Bacon concludes his first “fruit” of friendship by arguing that disclosure redoubles joys and cuts griefs in halves.
“You must know that it is no easy thing for a principle to become a man’s own, unless each day he maintain it and hear it maintained, as well as work it out in life.”
Principles become character through repetition: they must be rehearsed, tested, and practiced until they survive ordinary pressure.
The Golden Sayings of Epictetus, saying XXX, Hastings Crossley translation.
Relationship quotations become more useful when they distinguish affection from trust, closeness from dependence, and loyalty from the absence of boundaries.
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