Source-backed quotations about pride, vanity, self-exaltation, superiority, conceit, proper or native pride, and the consequences of overestimating oneself. Pride is kept distinct from generic Confidence, Ego, Self-Respect, Dignity or Humility when no pride/vanity dimension is actually central.
“Murder your darlings.”
The memorable command advises writers to delete showy passages they love when those passages serve vanity or ornament more than the work as a whole.
On the Art of Writing, Lecture XII, “On Style,” Project Gutenberg #17470; the phrase concludes Quiller-Couch’s warning against purchased or extraneous ornament.
“You and I are but sewing-machines.”
The comic comparison reduces human pride by placing ordinary people beside the much richer creative machinery Twain has just attributed to Shakespeare.
What Is Man?, Part I, “a. Man the Machine. b. Personal Merit,” Project Gutenberg #70. The Old Man says “You and I are but sewing-machines” immediately after contrasting Shakespeare with a Gobelin loom and before insisting that people merely turn out what their inherited and external influences permit. This remains Twain’s comic-philosophical deterministic dialogue, not settled psychology or neuroscience.
“Ere fancy you consult, consult your purse.”
Desired appearance should be tested against actual means before spending, placing affordability ahead of fashion or social comparison.
The Way to Wealth, frugality section; Project Gutenberg #43855. The line appears in a short verse warning against pride-driven spending on dress.
“Better to reign in Hell, than serve in Heaven.”
The line expresses proud rebellion and the desire for autonomy, but its speaker and context make that ambition morally complicated.
Paradise Lost (1667), Book I, line 263; Satan says he would rather reign in Hell than serve in Heaven. This collection retains normalized modern orthography; the first-edition transcription has ‘then’ and ‘Heav’n.’ This is dramatic character speech, not Milton’s direct endorsement.
“I must learn to brook being happier than I deserve.”
The line combines joy with humility: Wentworth recognizes that his renewed happiness exceeds what his earlier pride and mistakes make him feel he has earned.
Persuasion, Chapter XXIII. Captain Frederick Wentworth says this to Anne Elliot while reflecting on the six years of separation his pride helped prolong.
“He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.”
The joke distinguishes healthy self-respect from vanity by showing how self-adoration can become a closed competition with everyone else.
Poor Richard’s Almanack.
“Angels can fly because they can take themselves lightly.”
Chesterton uses levity as a metaphor against swollen self-importance: the ability to take oneself less heavily becomes part of spiritual freedom rather than evidence that serious responsibilities do not matter.
Orthodoxy, Chapter VII, “The Eternal Revolution,” Project Gutenberg #130. “Angels can fly because they can take themselves lightly” appears inside Chesterton’s explicitly Christian paradox contrasting levity, pride, humility and self-forgetfulness. It remains apologetic and metaphorical religious prose rather than a literal scientific claim about angels, gravity or psychology.
“God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.”
Pride is treated as a barrier while humility is presented as a posture open to correction, help, and grace.
James 4:6 in the King James Version.
“When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom.”
Pride is linked with poor judgment while humility is linked with wisdom, suggesting that accurate self-estimation improves decision making.
Proverbs 11:2 in the King James Version.
“A certain kind of self-respect or native pride is necessary to a good life.”
Russell treats a durable sense of inward worth as necessary for living without surrendering completely to defeat, pressure or external judgment.
Political Ideals, discussion of what social institutions should make possible for individuals. Russell immediately connects self-respect with courage, hope and living by the best within oneself despite obstacles.
“Trust not your self; but your defects to know, make use of ev’ry friend—and ev’ry foe.”
Pope treats criticism from both allies and opponents as information that can expose blind spots.
An Essay on Criticism, in the passage warning against pride in judgment.
“In reality, there is, perhaps, no one of our natural passions so hard to subdue as pride.”
Franklin treats humility as a continuing discipline rather than a completed achievement: pride is difficult precisely because it can survive attempts to suppress it and can even attach itself to the appearance of modesty.
The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin, Part II, Humility discussion near the close of the Passy 1784 continuation. Franklin reflects that pride survives attempts to suppress it and can attach itself even to apparent humility; the reviewed direct locator is Wikisource Section Thirty Nine.
“How vain are all these glories, all our pains, Unless good sense preserve what beauty gains:”
Clarissa’s speech argues that appearance and social admiration are unstable unless judgment and character give them something more durable to rest on.
The Rape of the Lock, Canto V, lines 15–16 in Pope’s 1717 revision; spoken by Clarissa. Her moralizing speech (Canto V lines 7–36) was added in 1717, so the inherited 1714 source year is corrected to 1717. The reviewed evidence opens the 1717 Canto V scan start; the exact couplet is independently preserved in the complete final-form text.
“A sensible polite person does not assume to be better or wiser or richer than his neighbour.”
Smiles connects humility with ordinary social behavior: modest conduct resists turning differences in knowledge, wealth, rank or achievement into claims of personal superiority over other people.
Character, Chapter IX, “Manner—Art,” Project Gutenberg #2541. Smiles places the sentence in his discussion of politeness as respect for the personality and circumstances of others, then describes the well-mannered person as modest, unpretentious and more interested in doing than boasting.
“you have to become lowly and strong; to recognise the powers of others and to fulfil your own.”
Creative development is framed as a balance between recognizing other people’s powers and taking responsibility for developing one’s own rather than copying them.
Lectures on Art, Lecture VII, Project Gutenberg #19164. Ruskin is warning students against both conceit and servile imitation.
“Discourses on humility give occasion for pride to the boastful, and for humility to the humble.”
Pascal points to a self-referential danger: even learning or speaking about humility can become another stage for vanity unless a person is willing to examine the motives behind the performance.
The Thoughts of Blaise Pascal, C. Kegan Paul translation, Project Gutenberg #46921. The next sentence extends the paradox by observing how difficult it is to speak humbly about humility.
“Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof: and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.”
Finishing and enduring are given more weight than the excitement of starting or the pride of appearance.
Ecclesiastes 7:8 in the King James Version; the verse contrasts patient spirit with pride and values the completed end of a matter over the excitement of its beginning.
“Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.”
The instruction moves humility into relationships by asking people to resist rivalry and deliberately give weight to the interests and dignity of others.
Philippians 2:3 in the King James Version.
“There are three infallible ways of pleasing an author, and the three form a rising scale of compliment: 1, to tell him you have read one of his books; 2, to tell him you have read all of his books; 3, to ask him to let you read the manuscript of his forthcoming book.”
The rising scale jokes about authorial vanity by making access to an unpublished manuscript the greatest compliment, because it flatters both the writer’s output and expectation of future work.
Pudd’nhead Wilson, Chapter XI epigraph; Twain presents the three-part compliment as a Calendar maxim about authors.
“I believe in Pride of race and lineage and self: in pride of self so deep as to scorn injustice to other selves; in pride of lineage so great as to despise no man's father; in pride of race so chivalrous as neither to offer bastardy to the weak nor beg wedlock of the strong, knowing that men may be brothers in Christ, even though they be not brothers-in-law.”
Du Bois connects self-respect with respect for other people, making dignity incompatible with accepting injustice toward either oneself or another group.
Darkwater, “Credo.” The passage uses Du Bois’s period language of race and lineage within a broader declaration of human brotherhood, service, justice and liberty.
Quotations about the self can point in opposite directions: accept yourself, change yourself, trust yourself, question yourself. The tension is part of the subject rather than a problem to hide.
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