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All warfare is based on deception.

“All warfare is based on deception.”

Strategy depends partly on managing what an opponent believes about intentions, strength, timing, and position rather than revealing every fact directly.

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The Art of War, Chapter I 'Laying Plans,' section 18, Lionel Giles translation (1910), original scan leaf 62. 'All warfare is based on deception' begins Giles's section 18 before the examples of seeming unable, inactive, near or far. This remains translation-mediated ancient military strategy, not generic business, relationship or current operational advice.

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Who breaks a butterfly upon a wheel?

“Who breaks a butterfly upon a wheel?”

The rhetorical question mocks disproportionate retaliation by comparing an elaborate punishment with the crushing of something slight and fragile.

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An Epistle from Mr. Pope to Dr. Arbuthnot (1735 first-edition scan), printed page 15 / scan leaf 21, line 297. “Who breaks a Butterfly upon a Wheel?” occurs inside the hostile “Paris” / Lord Hervey satire and questions disproportionate punishment. The first edition capitalizes “Butterfly” and “Wheel”; the frozen catalog capitalization is normalized, and the personal/polemical context remains explicit.

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Both sides of me were in dead earnest.

“Both sides of me were in dead earnest.”

Jekyll describes his opposed impulses as sincerely felt rather than treating one side as merely a performance, intensifying the novel’s exploration of divided identity.

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Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde, “Henry Jekyll’s Full Statement of the Case,” Project Gutenberg #42. This is Jekyll’s fictional account of moral and psychological division inside the novel, not a medical or psychological diagnosis.

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I wish'd the man a dinner, and sat still.

“I wish'd the man a dinner, and sat still.”

The satirical speaker portrays restraint as refusing to escalate a literary attack, answering hostility with a comic wish that the critic’s need might be relieved.

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An Epistle from Mr. Pope to Dr. Arbuthnot (1735 first-edition scan), printed page 8 / scan leaf 14, around lines 148–150. After saying Gildon drew his “venal quill,” Pope says he wished him a dinner and did not answer the attack. The first edition reads “sate still,” while the later/normalized Gutenberg #9800 witness underlying the frozen catalog reads “sat still”; this collection wording is retained and the witness variation is disclosed rather than silently rewritten.

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What mighty contests rise from trivial things,

“What mighty contests rise from trivial things,”

Voice: Poetic speaker · Mock-heroic narrator

The mock-heroic opening announces the poem’s central comic method: treating a small social quarrel with the scale and language of epic conflict.

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The Rape of the Lock, Canto I, line 2 in the 1717 recension. The retained catalog wording ‘What mighty contests rise from trivial things’ is verified in The Works of Mr. Alexander Pope (1717), scan page 157; the 1714 second edition instead reads ‘What mighty Quarrels rise from trivial things,’ so the synchronized source year is 1717. The line is part of Pope’s mock-heroic invocation and should be read as satire.

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History is a nightmare from which I am trying to awake.

“History is a nightmare from which I am trying to awake.”

Stephen compresses his troubled relation to inherited political, religious and personal history into an image of trying to wake from something oppressive that still shapes the present.

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Ulysses, Episode 2 (“Nestor”), Project Gutenberg #4300. Stephen Dedalus says the line during his conversation with Mr Deasy; it is fictional dialogue inside a modernist novel and should not be flattened into Joyce’s direct historical thesis.

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A countryman between two lawyers is like a fish between two cats.
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“A countryman between two lawyers is like a fish between two cats.”

Franklin’s image jokes that a dispute can leave the person in the middle consumed by the professionals surrounding it.

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Poor Richard’s Almanack; one of Franklin’s compact comparisons about disputes and practical judgment.

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At least I prefer to write unwisely rather than to be silent unkindly.

“At least I prefer to write unwisely rather than to be silent unkindly.”

Marcus explains why he risks offering awkward advice to Fronto: preserving kindness and speaking when concern matters can be preferable to staying silent simply to avoid possible embarrassment.

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Project Gutenberg #2680, correspondence appendix, Ad M. Caes. ii. 2. Marcus closes a letter about Fronto’s role in the Herodes Atticus dispute with this sentence. It is personal epistolary reasoning inside a specific conflict, not a universal rule to intervene in every disagreement.

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In war, then, let your great object be victory, not lengthy campaigns.

“In war, then, let your great object be victory, not lengthy campaigns.”

The objective should govern the campaign; activity that continues without advancing the actual goal wastes resources and creates new vulnerabilities.

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The Art of War, Chapter II “Waging War,” section 19, Lionel Giles translation (1910), printed page 16 / scan leaf 72 in Giles’s original full edition on Wikisource, cross-checked against Project Gutenberg #17405. “In war, then, let your great object be victory, not lengthy campaigns” is the chapter’s concluding strategic principle immediately before the statement about the commander and the people’s fate. It remains ancient battlefield/statecraft argument, not current military operational advice or a context-free productivity maxim.

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Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will.

“Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will.”

The line argues that meaningful reform usually requires explicit demands rather than passive hope that power will surrender itself.

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Speech in Canandaigua, New York, August 3, 1857.

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Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.

“Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.”

Voice: Reported speaker · Jesus

Peacemaking is treated as active moral work: reducing conflict and restoring relationship rather than simply avoiding disagreement.

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Matthew 5:9, King James Version.

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There is no instance of a country having benefited from prolonged warfare.

“There is no instance of a country having benefited from prolonged warfare.”

Long conflict consumes strength and resources, so duration itself becomes a strategic cost even before the outcome is decided.

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The Art of War, Chapter II “Waging War,” section 6, Lionel Giles translation (1910), printed page 12 / scan leaf 68 in Giles’s original full edition on Wikisource, cross-checked against Project Gutenberg #17405. “There is no instance of a country having benefited from prolonged warfare” closes the opening argument about weapons, strength, treasure and state resources being exhausted by a protracted campaign. It remains ancient military-strategy argument in translation, not a generic business, relationship or current geopolitical rule.

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Supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy’s resistance without fighting.

“Supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy’s resistance without fighting.”

The highest strategic result achieves the objective while avoiding the destruction, expense, and uncertainty of direct battle when another path can work.

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The Art of War, Chapter III “Attack by Stratagem,” section 2, Lionel Giles translation (1910), printed page 17 / scan leaf 73 in the original Giles edition on Wikisource, cross-checked against Project Gutenberg #17405. “Supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy’s resistance without fighting” contrasts mere battlefield victory with achieving the strategic objective without direct combat. This remains ancient military-strategy argument in translation, not generic advice for business, relationships or ordinary personal conflict.

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Man is not the enemy of man, but through the medium of a false system of Government.

“Man is not the enemy of man, but through the medium of a false system of Government.”

Paine attributes much social conflict to institutions and inherited political systems rather than treating hostility as an unavoidable feature of human nature.

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Rights of Man, Part I, Conclusion; represented from Moncure Daniel Conway’s public-domain Project Gutenberg #3742 collection. The passage attributes national hostility to old systems of government rather than to an inevitable enmity between people.

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I would permit no man, no matter what his colour might be, to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him.

“I would permit no man, no matter what his colour might be, to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him.”

Washington frames refusal to hate as protection of his own moral agency: another person’s prejudice or wrongdoing should not be allowed to dictate the emotional character of his inner life.

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Up from Slavery, Chapter XI, “Making Their Beds Before They Could Lie On Them,” Project Gutenberg #2376. Washington says he learned from General Armstrong to reject racial hatred and applies that lesson specifically to hostility and wrongs inflicted on Black Americans; the historical context remains explicit rather than becoming generic advice to ignore mistreatment.

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Victory breeds hatred, for the conquered is unhappy. He who has given up both victory and defeat, he, the contented, is happy.

“Victory breeds hatred, for the conquered is unhappy. He who has given up both victory and defeat, he, the contented, is happy.”

The verse questions identity built around winning: contentment becomes more available when life is not constantly interpreted as a contest that somebody else must lose.

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Dhammapada 201, Max Müller translation; the line appears in the chapter on happiness and contrasts competitive victory with contentment.

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Rapidity is the essence of war: take advantage of the enemy’s unreadiness, make your way by unexpected routes, and attack unguarded spots.

“Rapidity is the essence of war: take advantage of the enemy’s unreadiness, make your way by unexpected routes, and attack unguarded spots.”

Speed matters when it exploits a temporary opening; the point is timely movement into weakness, not haste without information or purpose.

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The Art of War, Chapter XI 'The Nine Situations,' section 19, Lionel Giles translation (1910), original scan leaf 178 / printed page 122. 'Rapidity is the essence of war' introduces the instruction to exploit unreadiness, unexpected routes and unguarded positions; it remains historical battlefield strategy, not current operational guidance.

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He who fights with monsters should be careful lest he thereby become a monster. And if thou gaze long into an abyss, the abyss will also gaze into thee.

“He who fights with monsters should be careful lest he thereby become a monster. And if thou gaze long into an abyss, the abyss will also gaze into thee.”

Opposing something destructive can reshape the opponent as well; sustained conflict requires vigilance about the habits and values one absorbs.

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Beyond Good and Evil, aphorism 146, in Helen Zimmern’s public-domain English translation.

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All that concerns the case which you are supporting must be clearly brought forward; what concerns your own feelings, though you may have had just provocation, should be left unsaid.

“All that concerns the case which you are supporting must be clearly brought forward; what concerns your own feelings, though you may have had just provocation, should be left unsaid.”

Marcus separates relevant argument from personal resentment: a case can be stated clearly without allowing justified anger or injured feeling to become the substance of the presentation.

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Project Gutenberg #2680, correspondence appendix, Ad M. Caes. iii. 5. Marcus replies after Fronto agrees to moderate his prosecution in the Herodes Atticus dispute. The sentence concerns forensic restraint and personal feeling in that historical exchange.

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Short & memorable

Concise lines for readers who want the core idea without a long passage.

  1. “All warfare is based on deception.” — Sun Tzu · The Art of War — Laying Plans
  2. “Who breaks a butterfly upon a wheel?” — Alexander Pope · Epistle to Dr Arbuthnot
  3. “Both sides of me were in dead earnest.” — Robert Louis Stevenson · Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde
  4. “I wish'd the man a dinner, and sat still.” — Alexander Pope · Epistle to Dr Arbuthnot
  5. “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” — Abraham Lincoln · House Divided Speech

Reflective & philosophical

Quotations connected with deeper interpretation, perspective, philosophy, or sustained thought.

  1. “All warfare is based on deception.” — Sun Tzu · The Art of War — Laying Plans
  2. “Both sides of me were in dead earnest.” — Robert Louis Stevenson · Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde
  3. “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” — Abraham Lincoln · House Divided Speech
  4. “What mighty contests rise from trivial things,” — Alexander Pope · The Rape of the Lock
  5. “History is a nightmare from which I am trying to awake.” — James Joyce · Ulysses (novel)

Practical & action-oriented

Lines connected with action, discipline, effort, habits, work, or perseverance.

  1. “I wish'd the man a dinner, and sat still.” — Alexander Pope · Epistle to Dr Arbuthnot
  2. “Rapidity is the essence of war: take advantage of the enemy’s unreadiness, make your…” — Sun Tzu · The Art of War — The Nine Situations
  3. “All that concerns the case which you are supporting must be clearly brought forward;…” — Marcus Aurelius · Correspondence of M. Aurelius Antoninus and M. Cornelius Fronto

Earlier sources

Older works represented in the collection, useful for comparing how the topic changes across time.

  1. “All warfare is based on deception.” — Sun Tzu · The Art of War — Laying Plans
  2. “Who breaks a butterfly upon a wheel?” — Alexander Pope · Epistle to Dr Arbuthnot
  3. “Both sides of me were in dead earnest.” — Robert Louis Stevenson · Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde
  4. “I wish'd the man a dinner, and sat still.” — Alexander Pope · Epistle to Dr Arbuthnot
  5. “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” — Abraham Lincoln · House Divided Speech
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