“With malice toward none; with charity for all.”
The phrase argues for moral seriousness without revenge, especially after collective conflict.
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Second Inaugural Address, March 4, 1865.
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“With malice toward none; with charity for all.”
The phrase argues for moral seriousness without revenge, especially after collective conflict.
Second Inaugural Address, March 4, 1865.
“’Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all.”
Love can remain worth having even when it ends in loss, because avoiding grief by avoiding attachment would also remove the relationship itself.
In Memoriam A.H.H., Canto XXVII, closing stanza; represented by the Wikisource canto transcription and independently visible on printed page 44 / scan leaf 64 of a public-domain edition. Tennyson's 'loved and lost' conclusion belongs to the elegy's grief for Arthur Hallam and its argument that love remains valuable despite bereavement; it is poetry, not a clinical grief prescription.
“In a world where all is fleeting, change alone endures.”
Stability is temporary, so practical judgment requires expecting change rather than treating present arrangements as permanent.
Counsels and Maxims, T. Bailey Saunders translation, in a discussion of fortune and apparent stability.
“Nothing is wretched, but thinking makes it so.”
Misfortune and judgment are separated: external circumstances can be painful, but the interpretation attached to them strongly influences whether a life is experienced as wholly ruined.
The Consolation of Philosophy, Book II, Chapter IV, H. R. James translation (Elliot Stock, 1897), printed page 60 in Project Gutenberg #14328. The retained catalog wording ‘Nothing is wretched, but thinking makes it so.’ is a frozen clause extract from James’s longer sentence beginning ‘So true is it that...’ in Lady Philosophy’s argument about Fortune, judgment and the instability of external circumstances. It remains late-antique philosophical consolation mediated by translation, not modern cognitive-science or clinical mental-health evidence.
“We need never be ashamed of our tears.”
Tears are treated as an honest human response rather than evidence of weakness or failure of self-control.
Great Expectations (1861), global Chapter XIX / Volume I Chapter XIX in the Chapman & Hall three-volume first book edition. As Pip leaves the village and breaks into tears, the retrospective narrator says that “we need never be ashamed of our tears” before reflecting on ingratitude toward Joe. Verified against the scan-backed Wikisource Chapter XIX transcription and cross-checked with Project Gutenberg #1400. The passage remains literary reflection on Pip’s remorse rather than modern clinical or grief-treatment evidence.
“Dread remorse when you are tempted to err, Miss Eyre; remorse is the poison of life.”
Rochester describes remorse as corrosive because wrongdoing can continue to poison later life; the scene immediately turns to the harder question of whether repentance or actual reformation can change what follows.
Jane Eyre, Project Gutenberg #1260. Rochester says this to Jane while recounting his own decline. Jane replies that repentance is said to cure remorse; Rochester answers that reformation may be its cure. This is fictional character dialogue, not Charlotte Brontë’s direct psychological advice.
“My life is in the falling leaf: O Jesus, quicken me.”
The falling leaf becomes an image of decline while the prayer asks for renewed life, joining grief and seasonal imagery to explicitly Christian hope.
“A Better Resurrection,” in Goblin Market and Other Poems (1862 first edition), Devotional Pieces, printed page 137 / scan leaf 153. “My life is in the falling leaf: O Jesus, quicken me” closes the first stanza as a direct Christian prayer for renewed life; the address to Jesus and resurrection frame are essential context and are not secularized into generic recovery advice.
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”
The verse places change inside a larger rhythm of seasons and purposes, making it useful for thinking about acceptance when one phase of life gives way to another.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 in the King James Version, opening the sequence of contrasting times and seasons.
“For us, to hope and bear on.”
The short clause gives the bereaved survivors a modest task: continue carrying the loss while keeping some form of hope available.
“A Child’s Grave at Florence,” stanza XXIX; Project Gutenberg #31015. The surrounding stanza contrasts the family’s earthly grave and silence with the child’s imagined heavenly life.
“For grief indeed is love and grief beside.”
The sonnet treats grief as attachment plus the pain attached to what has been lost, refusing to separate sorrow cleanly from love.
Sonnets from the Portuguese, Sonnet XXXV, Project Gutenberg #2002. “For grief indeed is love and grief beside” occurs as the lyric speaker asks whether a new beloved can fill a place still occupied by family memory and bereavement. It remains intimate Victorian love poetry, not a clinical model or universal definition of grief.
“Other desires and other hopes beset me, Hopes which obscure, but cannot do thee wrong!”
New desires and hopes can enter life without necessarily betraying the person who is remembered, allowing continuation and fidelity to coexist.
“Remembrance,” Project Gutenberg #1019. The speaker is negotiating loyalty to a lost beloved rather than announcing a universal timetable for moving on.
“Cold in the earth—and fifteen wild Decembers, From those brown hills, have melted into spring.”
The poem measures bereavement through fifteen winters turning into spring, making seasonal change a visible clock for grief that has lasted across years.
“Remembrance,” in Poems by Currer, Ellis, and Acton Bell (1846); Project Gutenberg #1019. The line belongs to a dramatic lyric voice and is not biographical evidence by itself.
“Unable are the loved to die — For Love is Immortality —”
The poem treats love as a form of continuity that resists the finality of physical death.
Opening lines.
“A man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green.”
Revenge can keep an injury psychologically active long after the original event, making resentment a way of repeatedly reopening the hurt.
Bacon, “Of Revenge”; the sentence continues by contrasting revenge with wounds that would otherwise heal.
“I would at times feel that learning to read had been a curse rather than a blessing.”
Knowledge can intensify suffering before it provides a remedy: literacy exposed the full structure of his condition while escape still seemed unavailable.
Narrative, Chapter VII; Douglass immediately explains that reading opened his eyes to the pit of slavery without yet showing a ladder out.
“Suffering is the sole origin of consciousness.”
The narrator makes an extreme claim that awareness grows from doubt, friction, and pain, consistent with his attack on effortless rational utopias.
Notes from Underground, Part I, Chapter IX, Constance Garnett translation. The Underground Man claims that suffering is the sole origin of consciousness while attacking the imagined rational “Palace of Crystal.” Verified against Project Gutenberg #600 and the 1918 Heinemann White Nights and Other Stories Wikisource text; this remains the fictional narrator’s extreme proposition, not current psychological evidence.
“The little child had come to link him once more with the whole world.”
The child reverses Silas’s isolation by creating a relationship that reconnects him with ordinary human concern, neighborhood life, affection, and a future beyond his private hoard.
Silas Marner; Eliot describes the social and emotional change produced by Eppie after Silas had withdrawn from other people and organized life around his gold.
“Thou shalt die out of death into life.”
Mara reframes death as movement toward life within the novel’s Christian-symbolic world, offering transformation rather than annihilation as the imagined answer to despair.
Lilith: A Romance; Project Gutenberg #1640. Spoken by Mara to Lilith in a theological fantasy scene; it is not presented as empirical evidence about death or an afterlife.
“Their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more.”
The promise expresses forgiveness as refusing to keep wrongdoing permanently active as the defining record of the relationship.
Hebrews 8:12 in the King James Version; concluding clause of the new-covenant promise.
“Let the dead Past bury its dead!”
The poem rejects living backward and immediately redirects attention toward action available in the present.
A Psalm of Life, in the stanza beginning “Trust no Future.”
“I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions.”
The image of blotting out a record presents forgiveness as active removal rather than a vague change of mood.
Isaiah 43:25 in the King James Version; excerpt from the verse about blotting out transgressions.
“He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief.”
The passage links rejection with sustained familiarity with sorrow, portraying grief as something known through lived suffering rather than observed from a distance.
Isaiah 53:3, King James Version; the line belongs to the suffering-servant passage and combines social rejection with sorrow and grief.
“Think only of the past as its remembrance gives you pleasure.”
The advice does not erase the past; it questions repeated attention to memories that no longer help the present.
Pride and Prejudice, Chapter 58.
“I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more.”
Pardon is paired with refusing to keep wrongdoing permanently present, making forgiveness a movement away from endless moral accounting toward restored relationship.
Jeremiah 31:34, King James Version; the promise appears in the description of a new covenant and includes forgiveness and no further remembrance of sin.
“Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.”
The request for forgiveness is made in the middle of injury rather than after conditions become comfortable, giving the line its unusually demanding moral force.
Luke 23:34 in the King James Version.
“Ask not for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.”
Another person’s loss is not completely separate from us because human lives participate in a shared condition.
Meditation XVII; modernized capitalization.
“The mind is its own place.”
The statement emphasizes how mental framing can alter the experience of circumstances, for good or ill.
Paradise Lost (1667), Book I, line 254; retained legacy short extract from the fuller Satan sentence beginning ‘The mind is its own place’ and continuing into line 255. It is the same underlying passage as the longer catalog record, not a separate fifth passage.
“Long is the way and hard, that out of Hell leads up to light.”
Recovery from a dark condition is pictured as difficult and lengthy rather than instant.
Paradise Lost (1667), Book II, lines 432–433; Satan addresses the infernal council before undertaking the journey out of Hell. The line describes the epic’s literal route from Hell toward light and remains character speech, not a general promise of recovery.
“Nature’s peace will flow into you as sunshine flows into trees.”
The image treats peace as something absorbed through attentive presence in nature, not merely as an idea reached through argument or distraction.
Our National Parks; the sentence occurs in Muir’s invitation to enter the mountains and receive their restorative influence.
“The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.”
Sorrow is pictured as enlarging emotional capacity rather than merely diminishing a person, allowing later joy to be felt with greater depth.
The Prophet, “On Joy and Sorrow.”
“And ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”
Separation can expose the depth of attachment that ordinary familiarity concealed, making loss a painful measure of how much the bond mattered.
The Prophet, “On Love.”
“A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.”
Different seasons of life call for different emotional responses; mourning is not a permanent failure but one legitimate part of human time.
Ecclesiastes 3:4 in the King James Version.
“Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.”
Mourning is not treated as failure or weakness; the promise of comfort gives grief dignity while leaving room for pain to be real.
Matthew 5:4 in the King James Version; one of the Beatitudes, addressing those who mourn.
“He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.”
Healing is pictured as careful repair of emotional wounds, offering language of comfort without pretending that pain disappears instantly.
Psalm 147:3 in the King James Version; the verse describes care for people whose hearts have been broken.
“He restoreth my soul.”
Restoration is expressed as renewal of the inner person, a compact image for recovering steadiness after depletion, fear, or difficulty.
Psalm 23:3 in the King James Version; restoration follows the psalm’s images of rest and still waters.
“The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart.”
The verse frames closeness and care as especially relevant during brokenness, making it a restrained source of comfort for difficult emotional moments.
Psalm 34:18 in the King James Version; the verse speaks of divine nearness to the brokenhearted.
“What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee.”
Fear is acknowledged directly rather than denied, then paired with a deliberate act of trust.
Psalm 56:3 in the King James Version.
“The more did I love them, and the easier it became for me to live.”
Understanding ordinary people and their lives changes Tolstoy’s relation to existence: growing sympathy makes life more bearable by replacing detached judgment with human connection.
My Confession, Leo Wiener translation; Tolstoy describes how closer attention to living and departed people increased his affection for them and altered his ability to live.
“It is not a lost year, but one that may prove the most helpful of any you ever know.”
A painful or disappointing period can still become useful experience when it changes judgment, humility, resolve, and the way a person begins again.
Jo's Boys; the reassurance follows a setback and reframes a difficult year as experience that may later prove unusually helpful rather than simply wasted time.
“If I can make a good man of this wild boy, it will be the best work of my life.”
Care for a difficult child is treated as meaningful work: the aim is not control for its own sake but helping character develop through patience, structure, and attachment.
Little Men; Jo reflects on the responsibility of guiding a difficult boy and measures success by the person he may become rather than by convenience.
“Here was a lonely, sick boy who needed just what she loved to give, a home and motherly care.”
Care answers several needs at once: illness, loneliness, and lack of belonging are met not with abstraction but with a home, dependable attention, and maternal affection.
Little Men; the narration explains why Jo responds to the boy’s condition through inclusion and sustained home care rather than treating him as a temporary problem.
“It is in thy power whenever thou shalt choose to retire into thyself.”
A person can create an inward pause even when external conditions are noisy, using reflection to restore order before returning to action.
Meditations, Book IV, in George Long’s translation; this is the central clause of the retreat passage.
“Take away thy opinion, and then there is taken away the complaint, “I have been harmed.””
The statement asks whether part of suffering is sustained by the story attached to an event rather than by the event alone.
Meditations, Book IV, in George Long’s translation.
“Suffering is one very long moment.”
Severe suffering can collapse ordinary time into one continuous experience, making individual days feel less distinct than the pain that joins them.
De Profundis, public-domain 1913 Methuen text; the sentence appears in Wilde’s description of prison time and the apparent sameness of suffering.
“Where there is sorrow there is holy ground.”
Sorrow can make a moment morally serious and deserving of care, attention, and humility rather than dismissal or forced positivity.
De Profundis; Wilde reflects on suffering as a source of seriousness, humility, and transformed perception.
“For us there is only one season, the season of sorrow.”
Prolonged grief can make ordinary changes of season feel irrelevant because sorrow becomes the dominant measure of time and experience.
De Profundis, public-domain 1913 Methuen text; Wilde writes from prison about suffering, memory, humiliation, and the changed experience of time.
“Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another.”
Healthy community includes both consolation and constructive encouragement: people help each other endure and grow.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 in the King James Version.
“To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also.”
Paul makes forgiveness reciprocal and communal, showing that restoration can require people to align their response rather than preserve separate grievances.
2 Corinthians 2:10, King James Version; Paul continues instructions about forgiving and receiving a person who had caused sorrow.
“Ye ought rather to forgive him, and comfort him.”
Forgiveness here includes restoration: after discipline has done its work, the community is told not to leave the person crushed by sorrow.
2 Corinthians 2:7 in the King James Version; excerpt from Paul’s instruction about receiving and comforting a repentant member.
“If Winter comes, can Spring be far behind?”
The seasonal image turns hardship into a temporary phase: decline can contain the possibility of renewal even when that renewal is not yet visible.
Final line of Ode to the West Wind; the changing seasons become a metaphor for historical and personal renewal.
“The hour of departure has arrived, and we go our ways—I to die, and you to live.”
The closing sentence accepts the separation between life and death without claiming certainty about which condition is ultimately better.
Apology, final paragraph in Jowett’s translation; Socrates closes after the jury has sentenced him to death.
“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.”
Cheerfulness is described as restorative, while prolonged heaviness is recognized as something that can wear a person down.
Proverbs 17:22 in the King James Version; opening clause.
“As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.”
The immense distance provides a spatial image for release: forgiven wrong is no longer held close as the permanent center of identity.
Psalm 103:12 in the King James Version.
“They that sow in tears shall reap in joy.”
The agricultural image holds sorrow and future joy in the same process, making present pain compatible with later restoration.
Psalm 126:5 in the King James Version.
“Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope thou in God.”
The speaker names inner dejection directly and then answers it with hope, preserving the reality of sorrow while refusing to make despair the final word.
Psalm 42:11, King James Version; the psalm repeatedly addresses a downcast and disquieted soul while directing attention toward hope.
“Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee.”
A burden too heavy to carry alone becomes something that can be entrusted elsewhere, making support rather than self-sufficiency the central response to distress.
Psalm 55:22, King James Version; the verse turns from conflict and betrayal toward entrusting one’s burden to God for sustaining help.
“The loss of a friend is the greatest of losses.”
The maxim treats friendship as a form of value that cannot be measured like property because losing the person also removes shared history and mutual presence.
The Moral Sayings of Publius Syrus, saying 37, D. Lyman Jr. translation (1856).
“Trust love even if it brings sorrow. Do not close up your heart.”
The advice refuses to make sorrow a reason for emotional withdrawal, presenting openness to love as worthwhile even when attachment can also bring pain.
The Gardener, poem 27; Project Gutenberg #6686. This is dialogue within a lyric sequence, and the surrounding exchange explicitly pairs love with tears and enduring sorrow.
“Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.”
Seneca argues against postponing life into an imagined future and asks the reader to treat the present day as complete enough for deliberate living.
Moral Letters to Lucilius, Letter 101.
“No man can have a peaceful life who thinks too much about lengthening it.”
An obsession with extending life can undermine the peace of the life already present, because fear of ending displaces attention from living.
Moral Letters to Lucilius, Letter 4.
“You have buried one whom you loved; look about for someone to love.”
Continuing to love does not erase the person who died; it refuses to let bereavement close the capacity for relationship permanently.
Letter 63 urges remembrance of a lost friend while continuing to participate in friendship and life.
“Let not the eyes be dry when we have lost a friend, nor let them overflow.”
Grief is neither forbidden nor allowed to consume everything; the line recommends honest mourning held within proportion.
Letter 63, on grief for lost friends, argues against both emotional numbness and endless mourning.
“Our remedies oft in ourselves do lie.”
Before assuming rescue must come from outside, the line asks what capacity, choice, or effort is already available within.
All’s Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1; Helena resolves to act rather than ascribe every possibility to fate. Verified against Wikisource’s 1910 facsimile transcription of the 1623 First Folio (folio spelling “Our remedies oft in our selues do lye”); direct evidence resolves to the reviewed Act I transcription.
“When sorrows come, they come not single spies, but in battalions.”
Difficulty often feels cumulative: one loss can arrive alongside others, making the burden larger than any isolated event.
Hamlet, Act 4, Scene 5; Claudius describes multiple troubles arriving together after Polonius’s death.
“How sharper than a serpent’s tooth it is to have a thankless child!”
The image captures the particular hurt of care being answered by ingratitude within a close family bond.
King Lear, Act I, Scene IV, reviewed against the scan-backed First Folio facsimile. Lear's serpent's-tooth line occurs inside his curse against Goneril after the reduction of his retinue; it is angry dramatic speech, not a neutral rule about children or family relationships.
“To mourn a mischief that is past and gone is the next way to draw new mischief on.”
Grief over what cannot be changed can become a second injury when it prevents attention to what can still be done.
Othello, Act I, Scene III, reviewed against the scan-backed 1910 First Folio facsimile on Wikisource. The Duke's 'To mourne a Mischeefe that is past and gon' sentence is part of the same attempt to redirect Brabantio after Desdemona's marriage; this collection preserves modernized spelling and punctuation rather than Folio orthography.
“How poor are they that have not patience! What wound did ever heal but by degrees?”
The image recognizes that wounds and complicated situations change gradually rather than instantly, but the dramatic context warns against automatically treating a persuasive maxim as trustworthy advice.
Othello, commonly numbered Act II, Scene III in modern editions. In the represented 1910 First Folio facsimile the continuous Cyprus scene is routed as Act II, Scene II; Iago says 'How poore are they that haue not Patience? / What wound did euer heale but by degrees?' while manipulating Roderigo. The edition-specific scene-number difference is preserved explicitly.
“Parting is such sweet sorrow.”
The phrase holds affection and pain together: separation hurts precisely because the relationship being left is valued.
Romeo and Juliet, Act 2, Scene 2; Juliet speaks as the lovers part for the night.
“We are such stuff as dreams are made on, and our little life is rounded with a sleep.”
The line emphasizes impermanence and the dreamlike brevity of human life.
Act 4, Scene 1.